Serial Monogamy

Serial Monogamy

Serial Monogamy is a relationship style where a person engages in a committed romantic/sexual relationship with only person at a time. Before engaging in a new romantic/sexual relationship there is a termination of the previous relationship.

Possible Benefits to Serial Monogamy The following non-exhaustive list provides possible benefits when choosing serial monogamy:

    • If both partners remain faithful, there is little risk of experiencing jealousy over outside partners or romantic interests.

Choosing monogamy allows compliance with ideals set forth by various systems of belief (i.e. religion or cultural norms).

  • When both partners remain faithful, STI risk is greatly reduced* or eliminated.
  • The experience of being with someone for a long period of time provides unique insight into love and partnership.
  • Learning creative ways to negotiate and fulfill romantic/sexual needs over the course of the partnership.
  • The ability to leave a partnership when it is no longer functional, healthy, or fulfilling.

Possible Challenges to Serial Monogamy The following non-exhaustive list provides possible challenges when choosing serial monogamy:

    If monogamy is a part of a value system, one may feel pressured to choose monogamy even if it doesn’t fit their personal sexual/relational style.

  • Keeping the romantic/sexual relationship engaging throughout the course of the relationship.
  • Managing romantic or sexual feelings for people outside of the monogamous unit.
  • Misunderstanding over monogamy by those outside of the relationship or those choosing other relationship styles.
  • Having sexual/romantic needs that remain unfulfilled due to differences in romantic/sexual preferences.
  • Fear or anxiety that a partner will leave and/or find a new partner.
  • Making life decisions that involve another person.

*Some STIs can be transmitted through non-sexual means.

Cross Cultural Perspectives of Serial Monogamy

Serial monogamy is a common pattern of dating and relationships in Western cultures, but it may be viewed differently in other cultures. Some cross-cultural perspectives on serial monogamy include:

  • In some traditional cultures, serial monogamy is not seen as an acceptable way of conducting relationships. People in these cultures may believe in the importance of long-term, monogamous relationships and may view serial monogamy as a sign of a lack of commitment or responsibility.
  • In certain Eastern cultures, the concept of serial monogamy may be less familiar, as traditional societies may prioritize arranged marriages and long-term relationships.
  • In some Indigenous cultures, serial monogamy may be seen as a cultural practice that has been imposed by colonialism. These cultures may have their own way of conducting relationships, such as communal living or polyamory.
  • In some cultures, the concept of serial monogamy may be viewed as a modern, Western import that does not align with traditional values and ways of life.
  • Some cultures may have different expectations for the duration of a relationship and may not distinguish between serial monogamy and non-monogamy in the same way Western cultures might.
  • It’s important to keep in mind that people of different cultures may have different beliefs and attitudes towards relationships and that what is considered normal or acceptable in one culture may not be in another.

 

Fun Facts About Serial Monogamy

  • Serial monogamy is a common pattern of dating and relationships, particularly in Western cultures.
  • Studies have shown that people who engage in serial monogamy tend to have more sexual partners over the course of their lifetime compared to those who are in long-term, monogamous relationships.
  • Some researchers believe that serial monogamy may be a way for people to learn about themselves and their needs, and to gain experience in relationships before committing to a long-term partnership.
  • Serial monogamy may also be a way for people to avoid the emotional risks and challenges of non-monogamous relationships or single life.
  • Research has shown that people who engage in serial monogamy are more likely to experience a rebound relationship, which is a relationship that is entered into shortly after the end of a previous relationship.
  • Serial monogamy can be a positive and healthy way of exploring different types of relationships and learning about what you want in a partner and a relationship.
  • Serial monogamy is not for everyone, and some people may prefer other forms of relationships like non-monogamy, single or polyamorous.
  • It’s important to remember that people have different preferences and what works for one person may not work for another, and that’s ok.

 

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