Mutual Masturbation

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is the practice of masturbating in front of, or at the same time as, a partner.  Mutual masturbation is a sexual activity in which two or more people stimulate their own genitalia, usually with their hands, in the presence of each other. This can be done with a partner, or multiple partners, and can involve watching or touching each other’s genitalia, or simply sharing the experience of self-stimulation together.

Mutual masturbation can be a fun and intimate way to explore one’s own body and desires, as well as a way to experiment and explore with a partner or partners. It can also be a way to achieve sexual pleasure without the risks of sexually transmitted infections that can come with other sexual activities.

However, it’s important to note that mutual masturbation should always be done with informed consent and communication with all parties involved. Everyone should be comfortable with the activity, and have the freedom to stop at any time. It’s also important to practice safe hygiene, and to be aware of any physical and emotional limits.

Appeal of Masturbating in Front of a Partner

The appeal of mutual masturbation in front of a partner can vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. Some of the reasons why people may find this activity enjoyable include:

  1. Increased intimacy: Mutual masturbation can be a way to increase intimacy and closeness with a partner, as it involves sharing a very personal and intimate experience.
  2. Sexual exploration: Mutual masturbation can be a way for couples to explore their own bodies and desires, as well as those of their partner, in a non-threatening and consensual environment.
  3. Increased sexual pleasure: Some people may find that mutual masturbation can increase their own sexual pleasure and arousal, as they are able to watch or touch their partner while they stimulate themselves.
  4. Safe sex: Mutual masturbation can be a way to enjoy sexual pleasure without the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
  5. Excitement and novelty: For some people, the novelty and excitement of mutual masturbation can add to their overall sexual experience.

It’s important to note that mutual masturbation should only be done with informed consent and communication with all parties involved. Everyone should be comfortable with the activity and have the freedom to stop at any time. It’s also important to practice safe hygiene and be aware of any physical and emotional limits.

In Summary The Appeal For The Person Watching

  • Arousing visual stimulus.
  • Possible increase in understanding about new ways to pleasure a partner.
  • For those with physical limitations, watching a partner masturbate can be an accessible way to express sexual intimacy and desire.
  • The ability to offer assistance or participation in the other partner’s pleasure.
  • Delayed gratification can make for a more intense play experience, should any play be following the act of masturbation.

For the person masturbating . . . 

  • The ability to control the pleasure they are experiencing.
  • Arousal from being watched.
  • An ability to teach the kinds of touch that work best for their body.
  • Having another person available to help with pleasuring, if that is desired.
  • For those with physical limitations, masturbating in front of a partner can be an accessible way to express sexual intimacy and desire.
  • If there is a differential in time that it takes to reach arousal, this can be used as a way to equalize the gap in arousal.
  • It can be a way to introduce sex toys into partnered play.

Appeal of Masturbating Simultaneously

  • Watching each other masturbate can provide visual stimulus which may enhance the eroticism of the play.
  • Each person is responsible for their own pleasure, which can reduce stress over performance or reduce performance anxiety.
  • There is no risk of STI or Pregnancy so long as body fluids do not intermingle.
  • For those with physical limitations, simultaneous masturbation can provide am accessible way to express sexual intimacy with a partner.
  • It can be the main event of sexual play or can be added to partners’ foreplay repertoire.
  • If there is a differential in sexual response, masturbating simultaneously can be a way to help ensure that both partners are adequately aroused.
What is the prevalence of mutual masturbation?
It is difficult to determine the exact prevalence of mutual masturbation as it is not a widely studied or reported behavior. However, mutual masturbation is a common sexual activity and can be an enjoyable and intimate experience for some individuals and couples. The willingness to engage in mutual masturbation may vary based on cultural, religious, and personal beliefs and attitudes towards sexuality.Why mutual masturbation may feel emotionally unsafe, or vulnerable, it is one of the physically safest activities to engage in with a partner.