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Getting in tune with your partner - Tantra style
Tantric Sex in Center City, Philawritten by : Jennifer Foust, Ph.D., M.S., LPC
Getting in tune with your partner - Tantra style A major component of tantric sex is getting in tune with your partner. This tip will teach you how to do just that. This exercise is something that can be done by itself or as a precursor to tantric massages. It’s really great if you don’t have a lot of time but you just seem to need that connection with your partner.
Now first off we must prepare our space. Find an area that is free from distractions. Take the time to turn off your phones, turn on some music (pick soft music that isn’t something that will encourage you to sing along. You don’t want anything to take you out of the moment), kick out the pets, light red candles and if you have one, turn on a red light (red has been shown to enhance sexual arousal hence the over abundance of red items on Valentine’s Day). Then cleanse your space. You may even want to use the Native American ritual called “smudging the space” (I like to use either desert sage or white sage and burn it in a shell or other item that you feel connected to). Once you have the space ready, it’s time to connect with your partner.
Before I explain the exercise further, keep these things in mind:
- Do not use any favored or sugar based oils if you are massaging a female anywhere near her vaginal area. Sugar based oils can change the PH balance of the vagina and cause her to get a yeast infection. Also, if you plan to move on to sexual intercourse after this exercise, remember that many oils compromise the integrity of a condom. I would suggest only water based lubricants near the genitals and if you plan on having sexual intercourse with a condom.
- It is important to breathe during this ritual and the person giving the massage is in charge of maintaining this breath. Whenever we feel strong emotions and/or pain we will tend to stop breathing, so it is important for the person giving the massage to monitor his/her breathing, and take a deep breath to encourage your partner to match your breath. Feel free to make noise when you breathe out. It will enhance the flow of sexual energy.
- When you touch your partner, I want you to do something that is foreign to most people and forget about pleasing your partner…Wait what??? Again stick with me here. For example, try touching something around you that you like the feel of i.e. felt, silk, a cool glass on a hot day. Whatever is around you that would be enjoyable to touch. Now take in the way it feels to you. Enjoy the way it feels. When you rub a cold glass of water across your head on a hot day are you focused on making the glass feel good? My guess is that the answer is no. The same has to be for this exercise and tantric massages. I want you to enjoy the feel of your partner’s skin, enjoy every curve of his/her body, every curve of his/her muscles, the sensation of his/her skin as it rubs against yours. If you are enjoying it and you are taking your time to massage your partner, and you have that earth energy flowing through you, he/she is going to enjoy it too. It also gets rid of what I call “the goal”. If you don’t have an agenda, then you won’t be so focused on reaching “the goal” and everything will be so much better.
Now, let’s begin the first part of the exercise. Connecting with your partner can be done in many ways. It can be things like taking the time to sit across from each other and drink a glass of wine, bathing together (If you plan to move on to tantric massages, I would suggest bathing before anyway just so you feel fresh. Bathing will also relax you.), or you can just sit and breathe together trying to match each other’s breathing. Whatever you chose to do, it is important to make eye contact during the entire exercise. This may feel weird at first but it will get easier with time. It is important that you void your bladder and bowels before starting especially if you move on to any tantric massages.
Now it’s time to move to the next step. Have your partner first lay on his/her stomach naked (this position has been shown to have the strongest comfort level). It is important that even though you are very familiar with each other that you still cover him/her with a small drape. This is not about sex. It’s about an erotic connection. Sit next to them either on your knees or cross legged whichever is more comfortable to you. I want you to picture that the part of your legs that are in contact with the ground are huge tree roots that dig deep into the ground and that you can feel the energy of the earth pulsing through those roots and then into you and in turn into your partner. Now start to touch them. Take your left hand and place it over the place where his/her heart is and use your right hand to massage her/his arms, legs, back (use of the right hand is important because it is linked to polarity in tantra) . You may use oils, but when you put the oil into your hand, I don’t want you to lose the connection to your partner. Turn your left hand over keeping contact with his/her skin and then with your right hand fill it with the oil and warm it.
Rub and massage his/her back, neck, legs, arms, the space where the legs meet the buttocks, etc. Whenever your partner is ready, he/she can flip over and I want you to place one pillow under his/her head and one under his/her butt and place your hands in the same fashion as before, left hand over the heart and right hand exploring. Try to focus on all areas of the body except the genitals. Take at least 30 minutes exploring his/her body. After one person has received the massage, switch positions. After each person has received his/her massage, take 5-10 minutes at the end holding each other while matching each other’s breathing. You may choose to do this with/or without maintaining eye contact. Connecting with your partner can be a very rewarding and powerful experience for both you and your partner.
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