Common Sexual Problems

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Common sexual problems include: impotence, premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties, female orgasm problems, painful sex, low sex drive, sexual mismatch, sexual inexperience, poor sexual communication, infertility, and STD’s. Over the course of a person’s life, most people will have an experience of not being able to sexually perform the way that they would like. This is normal. With that being said, we have created hundreds of self-help tips for you to read from the comfort of your own home to help you take the steps to overcome the sexual problem that you are experiencing.

Pressure To Orgasm

Pressure to orgasm: A long time…

Male Anatomy

Male Anatomy Have you ever…

Defining Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is a condition…

Female Anatomy

Female anatomy can be complicated,…

Talking To Your Partner About Your Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Having a Sexually Transmitted Infection…

Caught him on Ashley Madison: Now What?

You found your partner’s name…

Herpes Help in Philadelphia

Living with herpes: A collection…

Affairs, Infidelity & Cheating

Affairs, Infidelity & Cheating :…

Common Male Sexual Problems

Male Sexual Problems : Impotence &…

How To Have An Orgasm

How To Have An Orgasm: Questions…

Dyspareunia – Painful Sexual Intercourse

Pain Before, During and After…

Foreplaying your Foreplay

You’ve been thinking about sex…

Regaining Confidence After Premature Ejaculation

Regaining Confidence and Control After…

The Power of Compliments

The Power of Compliments:  Learn…

Level of desire

People often differ in their appetite for sex. One of the most common sexual complaints among couples is a disparity in level of desire. (Think: “When I’m hot (s)he’s not!”)
Since this is a common concern, it is helpful to take the time to examine the root cause of the difference in level of desire since there are many possible contributing factors. After clarifying the likely factors fueling the problem, consider several possible solutions.

Vulnerability

Vulnerability. The mere mention of the word can make grown men squirm and grown women hide! It’s something we don’t often talk about, yet it is universal to all human beings.

In the context of human relationships, vulnerability is the glue that connects us, yet terrifies most of us at the same time. When the “V” word is mentioned, oftentimes people immediately think of situations in which they have been hurt or disappointed by others. They may even remind themselves, “That’s why I don’t get too close.” Vulnerability is commonly associated with pain; however, by choosing that viewpoint we miss out on the richer meaning and opportunity.

Too busy for sex

Your daughter forgot to tell you about the school project that’s due tomorrow. Your son’s soccer game starts in 45 minutes and the washer just broke. Your toddler got a raisin stuck up his nose, and there’s a huge deadline at work. Are you too busy for sex? Does the mere thought of getting naked and being sexy exhaust you? Join the club! So many of us are stuck in the frenzied pace of work, kids, family responsibilities and daily minutia that our sex lives are all but forgotten! Sometimes, sex can get monotonous or routine between people who are in a long-term committed relationship. What can you do if you are truly too busy for sex? Keep reading for seven practical suggestions to jump start your sex life.

Beliefs About Sex

We all have underlying beliefs…

Identifying your Bottom Line Behaviors

Identifying your bottom line behaviors is a useful way for recovering individuals to monitor their behaviors regularly. Any behaviors the individual engages is in, that fall outside of the predetermined boundaries is considered a slip or a relapse.

Lubricate and Stimulate Exercise: Premature Ejaculation Treatment

This premature ejaculation technique is useful for men who experience hypersensitivity during sexual intercourse resulting in a quick ejaculatory response after penetration. This technique will help you merge your mind/body experience in order for you to train your body to feel the sensations of intercourse.

Premature Ejaculation Correction Exercise: Hand Job with Partner Participation

This premature ejaculation correction exercise is designed to increase your intimacy, gain awareness of your sensations, and last longer.

How do you know if you are bad at sex?

Just because you and your past partner had amazing sex, does not mean that all future lovers will consider you amazing in the bedroom. Each partner is different. Different build, different tastes, different needs, different likes and dislikes. Just like dating and relationships, the chemistry created between two people changes from person to person, and how the dynamic of how a couple grows from mistakes as well as successful experiences can be wildly different. With this being said, there are some people who will be considered “good” in bed to a wider range of partner’s and others will be viewed as more limited. In relationships, just remember, it only takes one.

Just Because I’m Having An Orgasm, Doesn’t Mean I’m Having Fun.

This tip is designed to help those people who easily reach orgasm, yet find themselves unfulfilled from their sex life. Simple ideas to get you started toward a more exciting sexual experience.

Assessing Your Premature Ejaculation

Assessing your premature ejaculation. What type of premature ejaculation do you struggle with.

What Is Premature Ejaculation

What is premature ejaculation? Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates within three minutes during a sexual experience . . .

Premature Ejaculation Exercise

Our premature ejaculation exercise is designed to help you develop the skills on how to last longer.

Making Skype Sexy

Intimacy and skype – making skype sexy – learn the art of becoming cyber-sexy.

Infidelity and Marriage

Infidelity and Marriage are not two words that are supposed to go together. Working through the affair with your spouse, or alone requires vulnerability, honesty, and an open-ness to making behavioral as well as emotional changes. Change takes time, strength, and reflection.

Sexlosteem: How Women Can Overcome

This SEXLOSTEEM tip is designed to help women that are struggling with Sexlosteem during intimate moments with their partner. If you are ready to take the next step to combat your fears, negative thoughts, and increase your intimacy with your partner start here.

Sexlosteem: How Men Can Overcome

This Sexlosteem tip is designed for men to help you discover the masks that you wear in order to cover up your vulnerability. Your self-evaluation can either elevate or pull you down.

Sexlosteem: The Ups, Downs, and Stagnaters

In laymen’s terms, you are self-conscious of your body especially during non-intimate moments and sexual intercourse. Sexlosteem leads to limited connectedness with your partner and sexual experience.

Sexlosteem: Stagnater

Stagnaters experience stagnation in the bedroom which can lead to a stale relationship as well as dissatisfaction in the bedroom.

What Is Your Sex Drive

What is your sex drive? For some couples having a different level of sexual drive / desire in a relationship creates problems, and for others it is not a big issue. There is a wide range of sexual variations that people may experience. Take our test and explore the differences that exist between you and your partner.

Your Right To Write

Your Right to Write: Surviving Rape/Sexual Abuse

Yoni Massage

Yoni Massage Tantra Style – Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina.

Women, Sex, and Body Image

Women, sex and their body image. Many women struggle to reveal their true sexual selves, naked and all, because of insecurities about their body.

Where To Get Help With Herpes

Cold Sores

Where to get help with Herpes

Where Has The Good Sex Gone

The following 5 items are crucial elements when it comes to having good sex. If you have noticed the quality and frequency of sex and intimacy with your partner has changed recently, this checklist is a great way to assess your current pattern and possibly identify areas to make a change

When To Use An Intervention

Many turn to interventions when confronting a loved one’s sex addiction, drinking problem, or an inability to manage their bipolar disorder, etc. The person’s life is spiraling out of control and it’s only a matter of time until the unspeakable happens. An intervention is typically chosen when family and friends feel that their loved one’s behavior has become so damaging to the point that everyone around this person is negatively impacted by the addiction.

When Sex Is A Trigger

For some people with PTSD sex can be a trigger. Sex as a trigger is common among survivors of sexual assault and rape. However, other types of trauma could still impact a person’s desire to have sex or impact a person’s feelings about sex. Some people with PTSD may try to avoid sex altogether, while for others they may only try to avoid certain acts or certain aspects of sex.

What Is Going On Anorexia

Anorexia as a source of pride, direction, opinions and a way to express vulnerability.

Warning Signs Of A Sex Addiction

Warning Signs Sex Addiction: If you have ever wondered if your partner struggles with a sex addiction, read this list and discover for yourself how well your partner fits the description.

Vulvar Vestibulitis Treatment in Philadelphia

Self-Help Tips for Satisfying Sexual Experiences when you have Vulvar Vestibulitis

Symptoms of Vulvar Vestibulitis Syndrome

Vulvar Vestibulitis Syndrome includes physical as well as psychological symptoms.

Vaginismus

Vaginismus is a disorder defined as painful spasms of muscles around the outer third of the vagina. Learn how to relax the muscle.

Vacation From Sex: Working through Trauma

Vacation From Sex Determining if a Vacation From Sex Could Help You. Survivors of sexual abuse who are trying to heal from their trauma should taking a vacation from sex.

Treatment For Getting Or Maintaining An Erection

If you do not have any medical issues that are causing you a problem with getting or maintaining an erection, sex therapy can be an effective treatment.

Too Tight

Too tight? What to do to relax the vaginal muscles.

Telling A Spouse About Your Sex Addiction

Telling a spouse about your sexual addiction is a big step. There is a very real possibility that she/he will end the relationship. Think about whether you are ready to take the step, and consider having a therapist help you with the decision. When you decide you are ready, the step will be an important one on your road to recovery.

Shame Of Sex Addiction

The Shame of Sex Addiction we have all been ashamed of ourselves at some point, and for most of us, many times throughout our lives.

Sexual Desire Issue

Expressing Needs With A Sexual Desire Issue: Are you and your partner struggling with sexual desire? Do you feel pressure to perform although you’re not in the mood? Is sex unsatisfying? Does it feel like a chore?

Sexual Style

Take the steps to discover sexual style.

Sexual Self Esteem

Sexual Self Esteem

Learn how to improve your sexual self esteem.

Sexual Pain Glossary

Sexual Pain Glossary If you have been experiencing sexual pain for some time now and are beginning a course of treatment, you may hear many different terms to describe your condition and the necessary treatment. These new terms may be confusing and at times sound like a different language.

Sexual Genogram: Making Sense of Your History

Sexual Genogram: Making Sense of Your History. The types of questions sex therapists at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia ask while taking a sexual history.

Sexual Compulsion Triggers

Identifying Sexual Compulsion Triggers: a key component of sexual addiction treatment is figuring out when and where during your day that you are most likely to act out sexually. Then creating a plan for how you will deal with these chunks of time so that when they come up, you do not act out

Sexual Boundaries

Sexual Boundaries: having boundaries is an essential piece in feeling safe in any relationship (friendship, with family, lover, etc.). Sexual boundaries is about knowing your limits and what you’re comfortable with, and being able to advocate for yourself as needed.

Sexual Aversion

If the feeling of not wanting sex persists and you find the thought of it disgusting, repulsive or unpleasant, you might be experiencing a sexual aversion.

Sex Addiction Recovery in Philadelphia

Sex addiction recovery in Philadelphia: The first step in recovering from a sex addiction starts with you! True recovery means becoming honest with oneself

Do I really want to recover from Sex Addiction?

Do I really want to recover from sex addiction? Most individuals reach a point where they realize that their sex addiction has caused much more pain than pleasure in their lives and led to isolation, loneliness, legal problems, and financial problems. Yet to totally give it up and try to recover from sexual addiction? What if you need it?

Imago Therapy and Sex Addiction

Imago therapy and sex addiction work well together. Healing is created by developing a space safe enough to have all of you show up. The first stage still requires withdrawal. And the second stage is focused on becoming whole again.

Sex Addiction Obstacles and Coping Skills

Sex Addiction: Obstacles and Coping…

Sex Addiction and Work

Sex Addiction And Work: For many people struggling with a sex addiction, the stress they face at work or school is an important trigger that either starts or perpetuates their addictive cycle.

Setting The Mood For Sex

Setting The Mood For Sex

Setting the Mood For Sex – How do you go about creating a mood for sex? The following is an exercise we use at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia/Center for Growth.

Relying On Porn and Fantasy

Relying on porn and fantasy: Have you been struggling to ejaculate when having intercourse with your partner? Do you find yourself taking longer and longer to ejaculate

Reclaiming Your Right To Dress Sexy

Reclaiming your right to dress sexy: to most people, a little black dress is just an accessory for a fun Friday night out on South Street Philadelphia.

Rape Sex Abuse Therapy Philadelphia

No one asks to be raped or sexually abused. Experiencing rape, sex abuse or any type of sexual trauma is a horrible event that can have an ongoing long term impact on your life.

Putting Passion Back Into Your Relationship

A guide to putting passion back into your relationship

Prodrome

Prodrome refers to the early symptoms and signs that a person experiences before the full blown symptoms of an illness become evident.

Preparing For Your First Session of Sexual Addiction

Complete this list of questions to help you prepare for your first session of sexual addiction treatment at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia / Center for Growth.

Premature Ejaculation Sexual Anxiety

Premature ejaculation and sexual anxiety treatment in Philadelphia. Practical steps that can be taken to learn how to last longer from the privacy of your own home.

Pleasuring A Woman

A guide to pleasuring a woman in Philadelphia: Women, like men are all different. Some like it hard, some like it soft. Some women need emotional connection, while others like emotional distance. Thus, there is no ‘one’ right way

Pleasure Female Gspot

How To Find and Pleasure Female GSpot (g-spot). A guide developed at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia / Center for Growth.

Premature Ejaculation and the Angry Lover

PE and the Angry Lover (Premature Ejaculation): Sexual exercises developed at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia / Center for Growth to overcome this issue.

Painful Intercourse

Painful Intercourse: Most women who are sexually active with a partner at some point in their life may experience a sharp pain during intercourse.

Overcoming Sexual Pain Philadelphia

Overcoming Sexual Pain in a group setting- Learn about our Sexual Pain Group located in Center City Philadelphia

Overcoming Negative Body Image

Body Image

Overcoming Negative Body Image Treatment (from The Center for Growth in Philadelphia)

Cold Sores (Oral Facial Herpes)

Oral Facial Herpes: Herpes is a very common and usually mild recurrent skin condition transmitted through skin to skin contact.

What Is A Normal Amount Of Sex?

What is a normal amount of sex?

Minimizing the risk of herpes transmission

Minimizing the risk of herpes transmission: Herpes is most contagious during an outbreak, however it can be spread even when no symptoms are present if the virus is active on the skin, but asymptomatic.

Masturbation at Work

Quitting Masturbation at Work : Establishing Healthy Behaviors in the Greater Philadelphia Area / South Jersey

Making Amends Sex Addiction

Making Amends When You’ve Made a Mistake

Has your sexual addiction ever caused you to harm or disappoint someone you cared about?

Low Self Esteem in Philadelphia

Low Self Esteem

Is It Low Self-Esteem?

How to recognize Low Selfesteem in Philadelphia and come to terms when a poor self-concept is the root of your problems.

Living With Herpes

Living with herpes in Philadelphia: you likely have many questions and concerns about your recent herpes diagnosis, such as those listed below.

Level Of Commitment

An exercise to determine your Lover’s level of commitment to you and to this relationship.

Anger About Partners Loss of Erection

What to Do When Your Partner Loses an Erection: When Getting Angry is OK

Depression and Sex in Philly

Depression and sex. How does your depression effect your sexuality.

Interstitial Cystitis

Interstitial Cystitis What is Interstitial…

Initiating Sex

Initiating Sex Does your partner…

Impotence

Erectile Dysfunction (e.g. Impotence) If,…

How To Approach Sex

How to Approach Sex – Rather than thinking about sex with the focus on having an orgasm, this exercise encourages you to think about how to approach sex with the focus being about pleasure.

How Frequently Will I Have Herpes Outbreaks

How Frequently will I have Herpes outbreaks

High Sex Drive

High Sex Drive or Sexual Addiction?

Herpes Treatment Options

Herpes Treatment Options

Herpes Support Group

Herpes Support Group in Center City Philadelphia, Time & Date: Every first and third Thursday @ 6:30pm

Herpes Symptoms

Herpes symptoms

Herpes Sex Guilt Philly

Having Herpes, Having Sex, Having Guilt in Philly: Tips for Self Forgiveness (herpes sex guilt Philly)

Herpes Resources in Philadelphia

Enroll in our Herpes Therapy Support Group or just read about the benefits of joining a herpes support group

Herpes Impact On Your Feelings

Herpes’ Impact on Your Feelings

Herpes Impact On Your Body

Herpes impact on your body, including outbreak duration, recurrence, treatment and prevention.

Herpes Facts

Herpes facts

Help With PE Redefining Your Masturbation Goals

Help with Premature Ejaculation (PE): Through the use of the arousal scale redefine your masturbation goals.

Good Sex Means Making The Time

Good sex means making the time.

Female Sexual Pain

Female Sexual Pain – Some of the conditions that cause female sexual pain include: vulvodynia, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, sexually transmitted infections, vaginal infections, fibroids, ovarian cysts, cervical problems, or lack of vaginal lubrication.

Fear of Infidelity

Fear of Infidelity. Every couple, at some point, faces the fear of infidelity. Couples counseling can help.

Family Roles in Sex Addicted System

In a sex addicted system (also known as a sex addicted family system), it is common for the disease to become the central focus within the system. As you read through the rolls, see if any are applicable to you.

Extramarital Affairs

Common reasons why extramarital affairs occur and ways to identify that your spouse might be engaging in an extramarital affair.

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile Dysfunction (e.g. Impotence): if, for the last three months, you have experienced an inability to attain / sustain an erection sufficient for a satisfactory sexual experience and it bothers you (or your partner) then you meet the definition of having “An Erectile Dysfunction.”

Emotional Impact of Herpes

Hope After Herpes: The Emotional Impact

Eating Disorders and Sexual Trauma

Eating Disorders and Sexual Trauma there is a connection between sexual trauma and eating disorders.

Does sex cause miscarriages

Does sex cause miscarriages?

Disclosing your herpes diagnosis to your partner

Disclosing your herpes diagnosis to your partner

Diagnosing Herpes

Diagnosing herpes in Philadelphia

Developing a Sexual Self

Developing A Sexual Self exercise can help you to build positive intimate experiences with yourself and your partner.

Confronting the Abuser

Confronting the abuser is a technique that may be utilized in sex abuse / trauma treatment.the goal of confronting your abuser is for you to regain your voice and re-do things so that you can play an active role. You can change the outcome of history for others who would be affected by the abuser, and rewrite yours so that he or she no longer has control over your life. This decision is not appropriate for everyone.

Confidence Boost

Need a Quick Confidence Boost? Try a Mantra. This is something that can be done at home without the presence of a therapist.

Coaddict

The Coaddict: Loss of Identity a sex addict’s life becomes isolated, lonely, and singularly focused on the addictive stimuli. The disease of sex addiction however, is crowded and complex, and it affects every person the addict had a relationship with: family, friends, coworkers, and neighbors.

Cheating

Cheating

Cheating is a common term that is used by lay people. The term cheating is often used synonymously with “illicit affair, infidelity, unfaithful, bamboozle, fool, con, and defraud.”

Changing Negative Thinking

Changing Negative Thinking – Frequent negative thinking contributes to a variety of problems including depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, poor body image, sexual problems etc.

Getting Your Partner on Board with Your Vacation from Sex

  Getting Your Partner on…

Benefits of Herpes Support Group

Benefits of Herpes Support Group (Sex Therapy in Philadelphia / Center for Growth Inc)

Being Single With Premature Ejaculation

Single with Premature Ejaculation – This tip from Sex Therapy in Philadelphia/Center for Growth is designed, with the single guy in mind, no partners are required! Successful completion of this tip will increase your confidence when you are with a partner.

Bedroom Blunders “Did that just really happen?”

Bedroom Blunders – how to handle the “Did that just really happen?” moment in bed

Bath Exercise: For Survivors of Sexual Trauma or For People Struggling with Sexual Aversions/Discomforts

The bath exercise can help you build positive intimate experiences despite having a history of sexual trauma, or sexual aversions/discomforts.

Herpes Question: What is Asymptomatic Shedding?

Herpes Question: What is Asymptomatic Shedding?

Anorgasmia

Anorgasmia: the persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following normal sexual excitement. Exercises to overcome anorgasmia . . .

Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (EDP)

Important Concepts for Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (EDP) and determine if it can be helpful for you.

Taking Control of Pelvic Pain

Taking Control Of Pelvic Pain: from the perspective of a phsysical therapist.

Vibrators for Men

Vibrators for Men – many people think of vibrators as being a sex toy for women. However, men can also receive pleasure from using vibrators either through masturbation, partnered sex, or both.

What is Vulvar Vestibulitis?

Vulvar vestibulitis is an inflammation in the vestibule, otherwise known as the vaginal opening.

Coping After an Affair: Learning to Trust Again

Coping after an affair and learning how to trust again – This tip from Sex Therapy in Philadelphia/Center for Growth will address coping after an affair when you just knew something was not right

Spirituality And Trauma

Spirituality and Trauma Have you experienced trauma? Have you found yourself asking the question, “Why me?” Do you feel like your Higher Power has let you down or failed you? If so, this tip can serve as a guide to help you deal with your spiritual crisis

Benefits of Herpes Support Group

So you just learned that you are living with the herpes simplex virus and you are trying to figure out what to do? Consider joining our Herpes support group in Center City Philadelphia

Sexual Communication Technique

Sexual Communication Technique: Are you and your partner good communicators in the bedroom? Complete the following exercise, and determine the answer(s) for yourself

Sex Addiction Quiz

Sex addiction quiz. Do you have a sex addiction or simply a high sex drive?

Low Sex Drive

Low Sex Drive: problems with sex drive are to be expected if you are not enjoying sex – or do not get enough arousal to become orgasmic. Why should you want something that is not particularly enjoyable!

Sex Addiction Counseling, Therapy, & Treatment

What is a sex addiction? Sex addiction is best understood as a form of an intimacy disorder. Addicts typically experience compulsive sexual thoughts and/or actions.

Premature Ejaculation

Overcoming Premature Ejaculation step by step guide. This is a core exercise utilized by sex therapists at Sex Therapy in Philadelphia / Center for Growth, inc.

Orgasm Difficulties

Orgasm Difficulties: Do you have difficulties having an orgasm? Try the following exercises . . .

Tips For Increasing The Chances Of Becoming Pregnant

Tips for increasing the chances of becoming pregnant. Working with a sex therapist can spice up routine sex.