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The Center for Growth, Inc.
also known as
Sex Therapy in Philadelphia
233 S. 6th Street, Suite C-33
Philadelphia PA 19106
New Clients (267) 324 - 9564
Existing Clients (215) 922-5683
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Accepting your own Limitations
Marriage and Relationship Counselingwritten by : "Alex" Caroline Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW
Accepting your own limitations - Is your relationship worth saving? While most people will have an opinion about whether you and your partner should stay together, ultimately, the answer to that question is an intensely personal decision that only you can answer. Ultimately, you will have to live with the consequences. With that being said, there are some general guidelines as to when a relationship is not worth saving.
- Your partner wants to end the
relationship. No matter how much potential you see in
the relationship, or how much you love your partner, you can not
‘fix’ the relationship without him/her. Relationships take two
people.
When this is the scenario, we strongly encourage you to let go. Prior to letting go, it may be to your benefit to have one last conversation with your partner where you state your perspective. In some situation you might be able to 'win' him/her over. However, be careful. Too much persuasion on your end runs the risk of putting yourself in an overly compromised situation. If you have to beg to get your partner to take you back, then you may be over-giving, and your partner over-taking. This could result in your partner acting selfishly, not because she/he is a bad person, but rather because you over gave. Balance in a relationship also means boundaries. When someone you love is not treating you well, step back and observe how you feel. Explore within yourself why you want to spend time with someone who is not treating you well. Does it really feel good? Or are you simply wanting them out of force of habit? Or memories of what used to be?
- Your partner is emotionally,
sexually or physically violent towards you, and /or your child.
Extreme situations such as violent rapes or broken bones are
easier to recognize. To report abuse, contact the police 911. If you
are unsure if you meet the criteria of an ‘abuse victim’ or if you
are scared, professional help is available.
The Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.ndvh.org 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and / or a rape hotline.
Women Against Rape http://www.woar.org (215) 985 – 3333
Most people who are living with an abuser or lived with an abusive person benefit from the support of a therapist. No one should go through this alone.
Sometimes, motivated partners are able to change. It is rare for partners to change without a lot of help.
Resources for the Abuser
- Sexual abusers in Philadelphia who want help can contact: Joseph
J. Peters http://www.jjp.org (215)
701-1560
- Physical abusers who want help can contact: The Center for Family Services http://www.centerffs.org : (856) 964-7378
Marriage Counseling and / or Couples Counseling Can Help - Meeting with a marriage counselor, can help you determine for yourself what is the best way to proceed. By working with a marriage counselor, she or he can help you better understand the choices that you have made, identify your options, and help you achieve what your goals. W.
Topics on Marriage & Relationship Counseling
Getting the most out of couples therapy
Talk, talk, talk, talk that’s all you want to do!
Accepting your own limitations
Bringing romance back into your relationship
Is Friends with Benefits right for you
How to avoid the top 10 marriage zappers
Premarital Counseling: What is it and what to expect
What are the benefits and drawbacks to 'Friends with Benefits'
Developing Communication Skills
Founder of Sex Therapy
in Philadelphia
"Alex" Caroline Robboy, CAS,
ACSW, LCSW
To schedule an appointment, please call: 267 - 324 - 9564
If you live in Center City Philadelphia and the surrounding regions, including the Main Line, Montgomery County, Bucks County, Chestery County, Cherry Hill and Southern New Jersey area and want to schedule an appointment for individual therapy, couples therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, family therapy or play therapy call (267) 324-9564.
